Finding Purpose in the Pain

Healing through troubled times

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The key to understanding pain lies in the acceptance of it.

Struggling against your pain only causes more pain. It is only human to have a knee-jerk reaction when you are presented with a painful situation, both physical and mental pain.

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1. Allowing Acceptance

As mentioned above, the only way to get through the pain is to work through it. Allowing yourself to feel the sadness and grief of your emotional wounds will give your heart the necessary space to heal. But it is vital to remember that the pain is only temporary and at some point, you must move forward.

2. Seeking Out Support

Although it can be beneficial to spend short periods of time alone grieving or pondering; it is important to reach out for emotional support from loved ones or specialized support groups. Many people also find solace in prayer and meditation. Whatever it takes to reach out, do it. No one should ever have to suffer alone.

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3. Allowing Yourself Time To Heal

Healing takes time, so don’t expect the pain to go away overnight. In some cases, the pain of tragedy and loss never fully dissipates. But, over time it does become easier to live with the hurt that comes from this type of suffering. There is never a set time limit to your grieving process so take as much time as you need to recover. Some people find relief by focusing on creative projects such as drawing, painting, and writing; and others choose to participate in more physical activities such as dancing and hiking. For others, it can be as simple as making time for yourself, and simply being. Things like reading your favourite book, watching a movie or lighting a nice candle. Everyone is different and has different needs, and just do whatever gives you a moment of peace, clarity and a brief respite from the pain.

4. Moving Through The Pain

At some point during your healing process, you will realize that it has become easier to deal with whatever pain and suffering you have endured, time is a good healer. The human spirit is remarkably resilient and given the proper time, dedication and patience it can bounce back from all sorts of traumatic situations. Please remember that no matter what you might have been through, it is not what happened to you that defines you but how you choose to respond to what happened to you.

5. Finding Purpose

There is much to be said about the wisdom that can be acquired through overcoming hardships and tragedy. Approaching your traumatic experience as a ready student will help you to find purpose in your pain and fill you with a newfound sense of compassion and understanding for yourself and others. It can be extremely difficult to believe that there is a lesson on the other side of tragedy, but it will always be found if you are willing to keep an open mind, heart and accept the message.

Originally published on Helen Barry

Reiki Healing & Teacher 🌱Crystal Healing 🌱 Pellowah Healing 🌱 Dublin, Ireland 🌱 Writer 🌱 🌱

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